Ministry goes through seasons. For me, right now is a busy season!
Unfortunately, it is during those busy seasons that we begin to forget things. Sometimes it’s no big deal. I forgot to make a vegetable to serve with dinner last night. Oh well.
But sometimes it’s highly important. Like forgetting to pick up your kids from school (I’m guilty. Are you?). Or a doctor’s appointment, or dentist appointment (at least I said I forgot. *wink*wink*). Maybe you forgot it was someone’s birthday.
Have you ever forgotten your own anniversary? Did you forget to kiss your husband good morning before he left the house? Or tell him you love him before bed?
We’re just so busy sometimes.
Do you feel sometimes like your husband has forgotten you in the busyness of life in ministry?
I used to get frustrated with those older women who would waggle their eyebrows at me and tell me, “Just wait a few years, darling…” It felt so ominous. And unhappy. Hubs and I are going to be celebrating 17 years of marriage this year. We love each other more now than we ever have. But sometimes when I think about those women from our early years I get it. Because there have been times when love has been difficult.
Because, of course, you’ve heard that phrase, “Love is an verb.” Love requires action. And when you get yourself too busy, sometimes this slips further and further down the “to do” list.
My marriage is so very important to me. In fact, I’m concerned about the marriages of all ministry couples. It is one of the most stressful “jobs” out there. I’ve seen more than a few marriages fall apart with blame landing squarely on the shoulders of “ministry drove us apart.”
Hosea 10:12 – Sow for yourselves righteousness, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the Lord, until he comes and showers righteousness on you.”
Has your marriage begun to fall down the priority list? I love this word picture – your unplowed ground. Have you allowed your ground to become hardened? Have you allowed the growing process to slow down? Or stop?
I’m not a marriage counselor. I’m not an expert. I’m not anything other than a minister’s wife who’s been there like so many others. Today I want to remind you that your marriage is important. It’s time for you to freshly plow that hardened field so it can begin to grow again. It requires proactive choices and action. And I want to challenge you to be proactive. Even if you feel as if your marriage is healthy and strong – be proactive!